it's hard but i can't get mad

I had to remind myself yesterday of one of my personal rules. '' ALL OF MY CHOICES ARE MY OWN '' This doesn't mean people can't do things that affect my life, it's just that I have to take responsibility for letting them do it and also for the way I react. So now that I'm dead broke and over my head in debt...I can't get angry that my friend who owes me money isn't giving it to me. Even if I know she has it's because we went to the mall yesterday. Where she shopped 'til she dropped. While I was unable to buy anything. What is even further shocking is the way she asks what my plan is for my lack of finances with what I truly believe is genuine concern. Its crazy, I know. But I must remember had I never LET her owe me money she couldn't owe me money. So I can only be mad at myself. Lesson learned.